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I love her so much but I’m the only one showing up. My family hasn’t spoken to me in months just because she’s Shia and I’m Sunni and we’re not married yet they act like I’ve betrayed everyone. My mom says I’m shaming us wallah I don’t know what to do. She says she loves me but every time we plan something her dad gets involved and she backs off. I’ve changed jobs moved closer applied for visas she says she wants the same things but I’m the only one risking everything. Last week I waited two hours at the airport for her to come with me and she texted at the last minute that her brother found out and she couldn’t. I sat there alone like an idiot. I can’t keep doing this one-sided thing but walking away feels like losing a part of myself. I’m so tired I can’t sleep I eat nothing my work is slipping. I keep thinking if I just hold on a little longer she’ll finally fight with me but she won’t. I don’t even know if she will ever be able to. Am I just lying to myself?

Joanne Toh · Answer

So my boyfriend's from a pretty wealthy family and I'm just a hawker's daughter, we had our own set of problems but I can see how tough it is for you. Go talk to her, have a real conversation about what's going on, Confirm she's feeling the same way about you. My own family wasn't too keen on my boyfriend at first but they saw how much he cared for me and now they love him. You need to know if she's willing to fight for this relationship too, not just say it.

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