how do i bring up dating pasts?
so i’m 28 & this is my first real relationship with another woman. we’ve been together for like 5 months & things are actually going really well—like, i never thought i’d feel this comfortable with someone. but we’ve never really talked about our past relationships? she mentioned once she had a long-term ex who kinda messed her up, but that’s it. i don’t wanna push, but sometimes i wonder if i’m missing stuff that could help me understand her better. i guess i’m also nervous about my own past? i’ve only dated dudes before, which feels weird to even say out loud. like, do i bring that up? does it matter? i don’t want her to think i’m comparing her to guys or whatever. last week she flinched when i accidentally used a pet name my ex used—just a little thing, but it stuck with me. i don’t want to mess this up. how do i even start that convo without making it a whole thing? i don’t want it to feel like an interrogation. tbh, i’ve never had to talk about stuff like this before & i’m kinda lost. we’re talking about moving in together, so… it feels kinda urgent?