How do I stop crying when he moved on so fast?

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I still can’t wrap my head around it. We were together for 3 years, and two weeks after we broke up, he’s already posting about some new girl on Instagram. Like, full-on couple stuff. Meanwhile, I’m still finding his hoodies around the house and waking up expecting to text him good morning. I cry almost every night, and yeah, maybe I’m taking too long to get over it, but it just feels so unfair. We didn’t even have a real fight or anything — he just said he needed space, then boom, replaced me. I keep thinking about the last time we had sex, if that was the moment he checked out, or if I was just blind the whole time. We weren’t communicating great at the end, I get that, but is it normal to bounce back in like, two seconds? I saw them at the grocery store yesterday and I literally ducked behind the cereal aisle. I’m so tired of feeling weak about this. I just want to not care. But I do. And I hate that. tbh I don’t even know what I’m asking anymore

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Same thing happened to me last year and it gutted me. I remember seeing his pic with someone new like 10 days after we broke up and I threw my phone across the room haha. What helped me most was deleting Instagram for a while. I know it sounds dramatic but not seeing his life play out in real time gave me actual space to breathe. I also kept all his hoodies until one day I just shoved them in a bag and donated them. Cold turkey. It sucked but it felt powerful. I started writing down stuff I wanted to say to him every night before bed — not to send just to get it out. After two weeks I burned the pages lol. It sounds weird but it really helped. You’re not taking too long. Grief doesnt work on a schedule. Just keep moving even if its slow. One day you’ll realize you forgot to cry and that’s when you know you’re starting to float again.

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