how do i tell my husband i might be bi?

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okay so i’ve been feeling off for months and i finally admitted to myself that i might be bi i’ve never looked at women before but lately i catch myself really noticing them like actually feeling something and it freaks me out a little dont know if its just curiosity or what but it feels real and it’s not going away i’ve been married to my husband for 8 years and we’re good together we talk about everything but this i cant even bring myself to say out loud i keep thinking he’ll think i’ve been hiding something or that i want to cheat or that our marriage isnt enough for me which isnt true at all i think i just need to understand myself better but i dont even know where to start what if he thinks its some midlife crisis or something i’ve been seeing a therapist which helps but i’m scared to bring this up with her too in case it makes it more real and once its out there i cant take it back one time i mentioned zodiac compatibility with a female coworker jokingly and he teased me about it and i panicked and laughed it off but inside i felt gross like i was already betraying him even though nothing happened and now i’m overthinking every interaction i have with women seriously how do you even tell someone you love this kind of thing without wrecking everything

Isabella Rossi · Answer

i remember staring at the bathroom mirror one night after my wife brushed her teeth, and it hit me—i wasn’t just looking at women, i was *seeing* them. like really seeing. took me six months to say anything. what helped? i wrote it down first. not like a letter, just messy notes—how i felt, what scared me, that it didn’t change how much i loved her. then i handed it to my husband over coffee, said “i need to talk about something that’s been on my mind.” he read it, sat quiet for a sec, then asked if i wanted to explore or just needed him to know. that’s when i realized—he wasn’t mad, he was just waiting for me to let him in. you don’t have to have it all figured out. say “i don’t know what this is, but i want you to be the first to know.” makes it about trust, not a threat. also—deep breaths. your marriage isn’t on fire. and hey, curiosity? that’s human. lol

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