My husband's family keeps bringing up my salary

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So we’ve been married 6 years now, two kids. I work in logistics, he’s a technician. I started bringing in more after I got promoted last year. At first it was little things — his sister saying ‘oh, maybe you should help them buy a new car’ or his mum joking ‘maybe she can build a new extension for the kampung house’. But now it’s constant. Last time never like this one. Even during dinner at their place, his brother asked me point blank why I don’t ‘support him more’ when I’m clearly earning more. I didn’t even know how to respond. My husband just sat there. Didn’t correct them. Didn’t say anything. Just changed the topic. Feels like I’m the problem for doing well. He’s not abusive or anything, but the silence? That stings. I love him, but I’m starting to feel like I’m being punished for working hard. Like I shouldn’t succeed too much because it makes him look bad. Am I overreacting? Or is this something we need to face before it gets worse? 💔

Chen Jing · Answer

Six years married, two kids, and now his family's all about your salary, right? I went through similar with my husband's family, they always asking when I'll quit job to focus on family. My advice, talk to your husband first, make sure you both on same page. Then set boundaries with his family, politely but firmly. You can say something like 'we appreciate your concern, but our financial decisions are our own'. And honestly, it's good you're earning more, you should be proud of that, don't let them make you feel otherwise 💪

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