My wife's secretly talking to her ex for months
Found out my wife's been texting her ex almost every day for the past four months. She says it's just friendship, that they talk about books, music, stupid stuff. But she didn't tell me. I saw her phone by accident — she locked it fast, but I saw his name. When I asked, she got angry, said I'm being paranoid. We've been married 12 years. Two kids. I work long shifts, sometimes drink too much after, come home late. She doesn't complain out loud, but I see it — the silence, the way she turns away in bed. I didn't say nothing wrong when I confronted her. Just asked why hide it? And she said he listens. That nobody else gets her. Now I can't sleep. Feel like a fool. Is this normal? Is it really just friendship if you hide it? My father would say keep working, ignore it. But I'm not my father. I don't want to lose her, but I don't know how to fix this if she's still talking to him behind my back.