Prenup means he expects divorce?

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So my partner brought up a prenup last night — outta nowhere while we were talking about wedding venues. I froze. We’ve been together 3 years, got an arranged marriage setup through our families but we genuinely fell in love. I thought we were solid. He said it’s just practical stuff from his parents but it made me feel like he’s already planning an exit.

Like is it crazy to think that? I get that money stuff matters, but shouldn’t we be focused on building a life not protecting ourselves from each other. We haven’t even discussed kids or sex life long-term & he’s already got legal separation on the brain?

I didn’t sleep at all after that convo. I love him, but now I keep overthinking every little thing. Did he bring it up because he’s worried about something? Or is this just cold financial logic? I don’t want to sound irrational but it stings. How do I tell him it hurts without sounding insecure.

We’re supposed to meet with his parents this weekend to talk logistics. I’m dreading it.

Kenji Watanabe · Answer

so I went thru something similar with my ex, he brought up a prenup out of nowhere and I freaked out, thought he was already thinking about divorcing me, but it turns out his family is just super into protecting their assets, dont get me wrong it was still a weird convo to have, I mean we were in love and didnt wanna think about the what ifs, but looking back it was kinda practical, what I did was I sat him down and asked him why he wanted a prenup, what was going thru his mind, and we had a real honest talk about it, turns out it was just his parents being cautious, so my advice to you is to have that same talk with your partner, ask him whats going on, why he thinks a prenup is necessary, and see where the convo takes you, it might clear up a lot of things

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