relationship

So i’ve been there — broke up with someone i cared about just ‘cause i realized i was still carrying old grief. It messes with your head when you jump into something while healing. Like, you can’t force feelings to line up neatly. What helped me was actually taking a solid month of zero dating, no distractions, just journaling & long walks. I wrote letters to my past partner (didn’t send them) & faced all the stuff i’d buried. Gave myself permission to miss her, to be sad, to not be fine. You don’t have to figure it all out now, but doing the inner work *before* the next thing starts? Game changer. Tbh, staying in the same place as your ex probably keeps things foggy. When you move out, make it a clean break — change routines, sleep in your own bed, cook alone. It’s not running away, it’s creating space to heal. You’ll know when you’re ready to connect with someone new, because you won’t be looking to them to fix the quiet parts.