She asked for a break then posted her new life?

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We were together for 3 years, planning to get married. Last month she said she needs space, took her things, said she wants to think. I respected it. Gave her time. But then poof—she’s on Instagram like nothing happened. Stories every day—dancing with friends, eating at new restaurants, even gym selfies with a guy I don’t know. Smiling like she never cried to me about anxiety every night. I told her already I was hurting and she said I’m suffocating her. But how can you ask for a break and then live like you’re free na? Like we never mattered? My tita said maybe she was looking for an exit all along. Ganun ba? Was the break just a polite way to leave? I’m not asking her back, pero... why show everything so fast? Was I just waiting for someone who already moved on? Feels like I’m the last to know na we’re done.

Valentina Torres · Answer

my ex did the exact same thing. took a break, vanished, then flooded social media with brunch pics and hiking shots with a guy she ‘just met.’ i kept checking her page like a damn detective, convincing myself she’d come back changed. she didnt. and neither did i — not until i stopped waiting.

real talk: a break means something different to her than it does to you. if she’s posting daily joy while you’re sitting in silence, she’s already moved on. not fair? hell no. but true.

i deleted her from my feed and wrote a letter i never sent. poured out every angry, sad, confused thought. then burned it. sounds cheesy, but it helped me actually close the door.

your turn — unfollow her. not to punish her, but to save you. go touch grass. call that friend who always makes you laugh. grief doesn’t heal in isolation.

and thier smile? probably as fake as it feels. people don’t go from anxious breakdowns to carefree in 30 days.

you’ll be okay. but first, stop watching her live her new life. start living yours.

one day at a time

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