She wants flat first, but what if I'm gone by then?
We been dating 2 years, things good, but she keep saying we can't get serious until we got flat. Like, engagement, future plans — all wait. Her parents very strict, want everything settled first. Last time my ah ma check our bazi — not great match, she never know, but I keep thinking about it. Got feel already, but everytime I bring up future, she say 'wait for flat'. Problem is, I might get posted overseas for work next year. Not confirmed, but possible. If I stay, it's for her. If I go, feels like all this time was for nothing. But how can I ask her to choose if she tied to family expectations? Sometimes think she using flat as excuse, but also… maybe I'm just scared she don't really want me. What do I do? Hold on or let go before I really heartbroken?