Was it worth leaving love for excitement?

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i was with my ex for 3 years. he treated me like real couple. cooked for me, called my mom every week, always calm and kind. everyone said he was the one. then i met someone else — more intense, makes me feel like i’m on fire when we talk. broke up with first guy, even though i cried for 2 days after. now i’m with this new person, and it’s… fun. but also exhausting. he disappears sometimes, says i’m too serious. i keep thinking about how the old one would never make me feel small. i cannot say directly but… maybe i miss safety more than i thought. my family keeps asking why i left such a good man, and i don’t know how to answer without making them worry. he very no good for me if what i need is peace. but i still check his Instagram. is it normal to feel this regret when you choose passion over comfort? 💔

Jess Aquino · Answer

i did this too. left a steady, kind guy for someone who made my stomach flip — and yeah, it felt like magic at first. but the magic came with anxiety, mind games, me shrinking myself to fit into his world. after 8 months i realized i was exhausted from chasing. i kept comparing how the first guy would’ve just… shown up. no drama, no silence, just love. it hit me — i wasn’t missing excitement. i was missing being *seen*. so i took a break from both of them. spent a month alone, no dating, just asking myself what i actually needed vs what just felt intense. wrote it all down in a notes app. one question changed everything: *when do i feel most like myself?* answer was never during the chaos. you don’t have to pick between comfort and passion like it’s a menu. but right now, ask yourself: does this new guy add peace or just noise? and can you be fully you, not the version he wants? it’s okay to want both safety and spark. just make sure you’re not trading one for the other without knowing it

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