What do I do when his parents hate our age gap?

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So I’ve been dating this guy for 8 months and we’re really happy honestly. He’s 26 I’m 28 we met through a friend at a Diwali party and just clicked. But last weekend I went to dinner at his parents’ place for the first time and it was… rough. His mom kept giving me side-eye and his dad flat out said “in our family we don’t believe in noona romances they never last” like I wasn’t even there. I laughed it off but it stung.

They’re also bringing up this Manglik thing now saying I’m Manglik and it’ll ruin his life? Bro I didn’t even know I was until last week when they sent me some astrologer’s report. He told them to back off and that he doesn’t care but I can tell it’s putting pressure on him.

I know two years is nothing but to them it’s a huge deal. I don’t want to come between him & his family but I also don’t feel like I should have to shrink myself ya know. How do I talk to him about this without sounding insecure or making it worse?

I just feel invisible sometimes like they’ve already decided I’m not good enough & it’s messing with my head. & honestly I wonder if I should just walk away before it gets messier

Maya Williams · Answer

Ugh, I totally get it. My boyfriend’s parents hated that I was two years older—same thing, side-eye at dinner, whispers in Gujarati like I didn’t understand. Like hello, I grew up with a dadi who cursed people for less.

What helped? Giving it time, but not just sitting around. I started bringing little things to their house—homemade gajar ka halwa, once a potted tulsi. Small, respectful, no grand gestures. His mom didn’t know what to do with kindness so she eventually softened.

Also—don’t let the Manglik thing rattle you. My aunt pulled that on me too until I asked, “But beta, did you check his chart? Because astrology cuts both ways.” She never brought it up again.

Bottom line: stay cool, be consistent, but don’t people-please. If he’s on your side, that’s half the battle. His parents just need to see you’re not going anywhere.

And honestly? Some things just take time. Like seasoning—can’t rush it.

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