Why hasn’t he introduced me to his family after 4 years?

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We’ve been together for four years and I still haven’t met his family. Not once. Not even by accident. His cousins know about me but act surprised when I mention his name like… what am I supposed to think? At first he said his parents were traditional and it’s not easy but after four years? I keep imagining the worst like maybe he’s ashamed or just keeping me hidden so he doesn’t have to fully commit…

Last week his younger sister tagged him in a photo at a family dinner and I just… couldn’t breathe. I didn’t say anything but I cried in the bathroom. I love him and I try to respect his pace but it hurts. My mom keeps asking if we’re serious and I don’t know what to say anymore. In my family once you’re with someone for more than a year it means something… you don’t hide them.

I asked him gently last night and he just said “not now” like that’s enough and changed the subject. I’m tired of feeling like a secret

Bindiya Rao · Answer

Honestly, this is a very big problem, he's been keeping you hidden for a long long time. Actually, four years is a lot of time to not meet someone's family, it's not just about being traditional. I've been in a similar situation before and it's frustrating, you start to think he's ashamed or something. You need to talk to him about this, ask him straight up why you haven't met his family yet, is he ashamed or what? It's too much na? You deserve better than being kept a secret, have a calm but firm conversation with him and see how he reacts.

Why hasn’t he introduced me to his family after 4 years?

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