Why won’t he support my career?
Ok so I’ve been with my husband for 8 years and worked in marketing since we got married. Last week he tells me out of nowhere that all his colleagues’ wives stay home and raise kids so why can’t I just quit already? Like... what? I bring in half the income and actually like my job. He says it’s ‘easier’ and ‘more traditional’ but it feels less about tradition and more about control. We argued for hours and he kept saying things like ‘you don’t need to stress’ and ‘our kids will thank you later’ but we don’t even have kids yet. I asked him if he’d quit for me and he just laughed like it was a ridiculous question... which I guess it is but still. It’s not even just this one thing it’s been building for a while he hates when I travel for work or have late meetings like my time is somehow less valuable. I love him but I’m starting to wonder if we’re even on the same page anymore. Maybe I’m overreacting but it feels like he wants a different version of me one that doesn’t exist. And now I’m up at 2am crying and typing this lol idk what I’m supposed to do