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I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now, he's from the South and I'm from the North. Already, we've had our fair share of differences, but I love him and I know he loves me too - he says I'm the love of his life. But honestly, it feels like I'm always the one compromising, I waited already for him to meet my family and he did, but now he's asking me to move to his hometown after we get married and I'm not sure if I'm ready for that. I told him already how I feel, but he just says I'll get used to it. I cannot say directly but... it hurts me that he doesn't seem to consider my feelings as much as I consider his. Is this just how relationships are or am I settling for something that's not right for me?

Kavya Nair · Answer

My cousin went through something similar, and honestly it took her moving in with his family to realise you can’t keep bending only. I get it, you love him, he says all the right things, but love isn’t just feelings—it’s how your life actually shapes up. When he says 'you’ll get used to it', that’s a red flag only. My amma always said, 'Don’t pack your whole life into someone else’s suitcase.' You already compromised on the family thing, which wasn’t small, and he’s not meeting you halfway now? That’s a pattern. Sit him down, not in a fight way, but calm, and say, 'This is not just about moving. It’s about whose dreams get to matter.' If he really sees you as his life, he’ll want you to *live*, not just tag along. And if he pushes? Trust your gut. You know your worth. ❤️

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