How long should I wait for a proposal?
So we’ve been together 8 years, been talking marriage since year two. Every time I bring it up, he says “not the right moment” — first it was his da’s illness, then work was mental, then we got a dog and that was the new drama. I get it, life’s messy. But I’m 31 now and starting to feel like I’m just… stuck. My ma nags me about grandkids and I end up snapping at her, which isn’t fair. He says he loves me, and I believe him, but love isn’t the issue. It’s like he’s waiting for some perfect stars-to-align moment that might never come. Last week I said “are we actually doing this or not?” and he just went quiet. Then said “don’t be pressure-ing me.” ngl, that stung. I don’t want to ultimatum him, but I can’t keep freeze-framing my life either. A friend said maybe he’s just not sure about me, which I don’t wanna believe. But maybe she’s right? Idk, part of me feels daft even asking — like, am I being too much? But another part’s proper lonely. lol, I’ve even picked out a venue. That’s bad, right?