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I've been married to my husband for 10 years and we've had our ups and downs like any couple. But I just found out he had a kid with some woman he met online a few years ago... I'm still trying to process everything lol. We were having some issues around that time and I thought we were working through them but I guess he was getting comfort elsewhere. The thing that's really throwing me is that he didn't even tell me about it, I had to find out from his sister. I feel like my whole world has been turned upside down. We never did the online dating thing but I know he was on those apps when we were separated for a bit. He's a Manglik and I'm not, so we had to do some extra ceremonies when we got married... idk if that has anything to do with it but it's just so much to take in. I don't even know if I want to stay in this marriage anymore...

Ananya Reddy · Answer

I've been in a similiar situation and I gotta say, it's a tough pill to swallow. My ex had a thing on the side and I found out thru mutual friends - definately not the best way to hear it. What helped me was talking to him about it, but not when I was still reeling from the news. I took some time to processe everything, and then we had a long convo about what happend. I asked him why he didnt tell me, and lol, his reasons sounded pretty weak. But we worked thru it, seperately and together. My advice would be to take your time, dont rush into a conversation - and when you do talk to him, try to listen to his side of the story, even if it's hard to hear. You deserve to know what was going on, and what's gonna happen with this kid - that's a whole other can of worms, haha.

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