She said she loved me then shut down overnight?

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My partner is a good person but I just don’t get what happened. A week ago she told me she loved me for the first time — out of nowhere, over tea at my mom’s place. I was stunned. We’ve been together two years and she never said it before. Next day she’s distant. Like full cold shoulder. Won’t answer calls just says “i’m fine” in text like that. I asked if I did something she said no but her tone was off. We’re both from Lviv you know how it is — people don’t say big things unless they mean them but then when things go quiet it means something’s very wrong. I keep thinking maybe her dad said something he’s old school hates that we live together before marriage. Or maybe she got scared I’d expect a ring now. But no talk. Just silence. I can’t keep begging for answers. Part of me thinks she meant it when she said love but another part feels like I’m losing her and don’t even know why. What do I do when someone opens up then disappears? 💔

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I've been in a similar situation before, my ex said she loved me out of nowhere too, and honestly it was really confusing, I think what happened is she might've said it in the moment and then started overthinking it, so my advice is to give her some space but also let her know you're there for her, don't push her to talk if she doesn't want to but send her a message saying you care about her & want to work through this together, I did that with my ex and it helped us communicate better, so try that and see how it goes

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