She said she loved me, then went cold

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We were at this little wine bar in Montmartre, right. Everything felt light, she was touching my hand, laughing like she really saw me. Then out of nowhere she says 'Je t'aime' — not the casual 'je t'aime bien' but the real one. I nearly choked on my cigarette. Next morning she barely replied to my text. Now it’s been five days and she’s acting like that night didn’t happen. We’ve been seeing each other for six weeks not serious but something was building. I thought we had this understanding. My sister says French women do this when they get scared. But that's not the point. The point is I showed up softer than I have in years and now I’m just supposed to pretend it didn’t happen? She still answers when I message just distant like she’s already gone. I don’t even know what I did. Or if I didn’t do anything. Is this normal? Do people just say 'I love you' here and then disappear

Brendan Walsh · Answer

I've been in your shoes before and it's a weird feeling. She says something that deep then just ghosts you. What I did in a similar situation was give her space but also let her know I'm still interested. Sent a casual text a week later asking to grab coffee or something. No pressure. And honestly it worked out for me, we had a real talk about what happened and it turned out she was just freaked out by her own feelings. So maybe try that, see how she responds. Just don't overthink it too much or you'll drive yourself crazy. Been there too

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