Why does he blame me for things I didn’t do?

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Honestly, I don’t even know where to start. Last night, my boyfriend accused me of flirting with his cousin at our meetup… which I didn’t even do. I was just being nice, laughing at his jokes like everyone else. When I tried to explain, he said I’m too sensitive for bringing it up and that I’m the one causing drama. Actually, this keeps happening—like he gets mad at me for stuff I didn’t say or do, and then turns it around like it’s my fault for reacting. I tried talking to my mom about it, but she just said, “Bahala ka na, baka di mo lang naririnig ng mabuti,” like maybe I’m the problem. But I’m not imagining this. It’s exhausting… I feel like I’m walking on eggshells all the time. Po can’t even fix this. I love him, but I don’t want to keep feeling crazy for wanting to be treated fairly. Is this normal? Am I overreacting?

Leo Moretti · Answer

so I've been in similar situations before and honestly it sucks when someone blames you for things you didnt do I think you should try talking to him again but this time be super clear and specific about how his accusations make you feel dont let him turn it around on you like he did before just keep reiterating your point and make sure you're not getting defensive thats what they want you to do just stay calm and firm 💪

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