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My wife says I get angry at her for things she didnt even do. She tells me I dont listen, that I dont understand her. I dont get why she is being so sensitive all time. We had big fight yesterday, she was crying and I didnt know what to do. She said I always assume worst about her, that I dont trust her. I do trust her, but she always seems to find something to complain about. I feel like I am good husband, I provide for family, I work hard. She should be grateful, not always nagging me. I dont know how to make her happy, she is never satisfied with anything I do. I am starting to feel like I am walking on eggshells around her, never know when she will blow up at me again.

Luna Hernandez · Answer

Look, I went through something similar with my husband last year. I’d snap at him for little things, and he’d get so confused, just like you. Ay dios mio, it took us months to figure it out — but the truth was, I wasn’t angry at him. I was tired. Overwhelmed. And every little thing felt like a weight because I never let myself say I was drowning.

You say you provide, you work hard — that’s not nothing, papi. But love isn’t just about doing things. It’s about seeing each other. When she says you don’t listen, maybe she’s begging you to notice how she feels, not just what she does.

Try this: next time she’s upset, don’t fix it. Just sit with her. Say, 'Tell me what you need me to understand.' No defending, no explaining. Just listen like her heart matters more than being right.

We fixed ours not by talking more, but by finally hearing each other. It’s not about being perfect — it’s about showing up, even when you don’t get it. ❤️

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