am i bi if im married to a man?

same thing happened to me, honestly. i was married to my husband for five years before i started really noticing women too. at first i thought i was losing my mind — like, how can i love him and still feel this pull toward girls? but it’s real. and that crush in high school? that wasn’t a fluke. it was data. you just didn’t have the words for it then. i started keeping a little note in my phone, just jotting down how i felt when i noticed someone. not in a creepy way, just honest stuff like 'saw that barista again and my chest got weird' or 'hugged my friend and wanted to stay longer.' helped me see the pattern without judging it. then i told my husband. not because he had to fix anything, but because i didn’t want to carry it alone. took months to say it out loud but when i did, he didn’t freak out. we’re still together, still good. but now i don’t have to pretend. it doesn’t mean you’re broken or confused or that you have to do anything big. just means you’re paying attention. and that’s okay... you don’t have to figure it all out today