I have friends, a career I enjoy, hobbies, and a decent social life. But I have never been in a romantic relationship. Not because of lack of interest — I just never connected with anyone that deeply. People act shocked when I tell them, which makes me feel like a freak. Is this normal? Should I be more worried about it?
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Grace Kim
Nothing is wrong with you. Society creates this narrative that romantic relationships are the ultimate measure of a person, and that is simply not true. Some people connect slowly, some people are highly selective, some people prioritize other things first. All of that is valid. That said, if it bothers YOU (separate from others reacting), it might be worth exploring whether there are patterns in how you connect — avoidant attachment, fear of vulnerability, unrealistic expectations — not to "fix" yourself, but to understand yourself better.
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