I have been seeing someone for about 6 weeks (8 dates). Things are going great. We text every day, spend weekends together, and the connection feels real. But we have not had "the talk" about exclusivity. I want to bring it up but I am scared of seeming too eager. Is there a general timeline or do you just know?

There is no rule. 8 dates over 6 weeks with daily texting and weekends together? That is a relationship in everything but name. If you want exclusivity, say so. "I really enjoy what we have and I am not seeing anyone else. Are we on the same page?" It is straightforward, vulnerable, and not at all too eager. Most people appreciate the directness. And if it scares them off, you saved yourself from someone who was never going to commit anyway.

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There is no rule. 8 dates over 6 weeks with daily texting and weekends together? That is a relationship in everything but name. If you want...

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Kate Morales
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March 9, 2026
There is no rule. 8 dates over 6 weeks with daily texting and weekends together? That is a relationship in everything but name. If you want exclusivity, say so. "I really enjoy what we have and I am not seeing anyone else. Are we on the same page?" It is straightforward, vulnerable, and not at all too eager. Most people appreciate the directness. And if it scares them off, you saved yourself from someone who was never going to commit anyway.

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