I have been on dating apps for 2 years and I am exhausted. The cycle of matching, small talk, ghosting, and starting over is soul-crushing. I put genuine effort into my profile and conversations, but most interactions go nowhere. Am I doing something wrong, or is this just what modern dating is? Is there a better way?
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Iris Patel
You are not doing anything wrong. APP fatigue is a documented phenomenon and it is getting worse as platforms prioritize engagement over actual matches. A few suggestions: 1. Limit app time to 15-20 minutes a day. Scrolling for hours trains your brain to see people as disposable. 2. Focus on quality over quantity. Message fewer people but invest more in each conversation. 3. Take breaks. A month off dating apps resets your tolerance and optimism. 4. Supplement apps with real-world connections: hobby groups, classes, volunteer work, community events. You clearly want something real. That puts you ahead of 90 percent of the people on these apps.
Bob Williams
Deleted all dating apps 6 months ago. Met my current partner at a book club 3 months later. Not saying apps cannot work, but I think the algorithm-based approach to finding love is fundamentally broken. Real chemistry needs context — shared interests, in-person energy, organic conversation. You get none of that from a swipe.
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