Best friend crush ruined everything?

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So my best friend Leo and I (I’m a Pisces) have been tight since high school. Always joked about how we’re soulmates but like, platonically. Then he kissed me after a dumb movie night in February. Outta nowhere. I’m still shook. Thing is, I’ve had this soft spot for him for a while, but never said anything because he’s always dated fiery Aries types and talks about them like they’re perfect. After the kiss we tried dating for a month. It was messy. He’d disappear for days, then text like nothing happened. I’m sensitive, need words, hugs — he’s more showy with actions, like fixing my car but won’t say he cares. We’re both flaky now. Avoid each other. Horoscopes say Pisces and Leo should work but… is that even true when it’s your best friend? Did we break something we can’t fix? I keep checking his Instagram like a creep lol. Part of me wants to fix it, the other part just wants my friend back. But what if that’s gone now?

James Thompson · Answer

God I’ve been there. My best friend kissed me outta nowhere too — total lightning bolt moment. We tried the whole dating thing and it flopped hard because suddenly the easy vibe we had got weird and strained. What helped me was stepping back for a solid few weeks so I could stop obsessing over what he did or didn’t text. I actually blocked him temporarily not to be dramatic but so I could breathe. When I unblocked, I was clearer. I told him straight up I missed our friendship but only if we both agreed to be honest no more disappearing. He apologized and said he’d been scared, not over it. We’re back to hanging — slow and careful but real. Maybe try giving yourself space to just feel without reacting every time he pops back in. And hey if you need to vent more I’m here

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