Love him but our futures don’t match

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we’ve been together 3 years & i still get butterflies when he walks in the room. he’s kind, prays with me, always remembers my mom’s birthday. but last night we had it out again about kids. i want a big family, 3 or 4 babies running around like i grew up with. he wants zero. says he’d rather travel, focus on his business, doesn’t want to be tied down. i told him i can’t imagine life without little ones & he just said “then maybe we’re not meant to last.” i don’t want to let go but how do you compromise on something that changes everything. my tia keeps saying “if he’s not giving you what you need, then he’s not it” but my heart aches at the thought of walking away. we’re both Taurus too, supposed to be so compatible but right now it feels like we’re just stuck. same argument every few months. i don’t think either of us will change & that scares me

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i was you two years ago, same sweet boyfriend, same knot in my stomach every time we talked about the future. i wanted babies, he wanted freedom, and no amount of love could bend that. we tried compromising—like “maybe just one?”—but it only made things messier because deep down, neither of us was really giving in, we were just stalling. ngl it felt like losing a part of myself when i walked away, but i kept imagining future me at 40, stuck in a marriage where i resented him for not wanting what i did. that scared me more than being alone. i took a solo trip after we split, cried on a beach in Portugal, and slowly started building a life that felt true. you don’t have to decide today but ask yourself: can you *really* be happy without kids? and can he *really* change? because kids aren’t a negotiation.  
worth it either way

Love him but our futures don’t match

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