did I trade love for just a thrill?

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i broke up with maya last winter. she was the kind of woman who remembered my mom’s birthday, always had my favorite tea in her bag, and prayed with me when i was anxious. steady. safe. then i met robin. wild hair, says things like 'let’s drive to new orleans tonight' and laughs like she dont care who hears. it felt like lightning. i left maya for that… for her. but three months in, robin pulls back. says she needs space, hates talking about the future. i keep thinking about how maya looked at me when i told her i was leaving… like i’d broken something precious. now i wonder, did i throw real love away for just the buzz of something new? i miss feeling safe. i miss being seen. …do you leave someone who truly loves you and expect to find that again? or did i just fool myself into thinking excitement was enough?

Rommel Padilla · Answer

Lost my ex the same way. Like one day I was cooking her soup when she had the flu and the next I was chasing someone who’d vanish for days after a great night. Sound familiar? I thought the spark was missing before but turns out I just got bored of real love not fake drama.

So I called an old friend who knew me back then and he said something I still remember: You don’t leave steady for spark you leave it for ego. And he was right. Robin ain’t wrong for being Robin she just ain’t for you not the way Maya was.

Here’s what helped me: I wrote down one thing every day that made me miss my ex not the rush the quiet stuff. Like how she’d pause the TV when I walked in. After two weeks I realized I wasn’t missing her I was missing who I was with her.

Try that. And maybe stop texting Robin every time you feel empty it just stretches the hurt.

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