He's perfect but why do I feel so... flat?
The thing is, we’ve been together eight months, and on paper? He’s amazing. Stable job, kind to my parents, remembers my coffee order, even learned a little French. But every time we argue—okay, when I try to bring something up—he shuts down. Like, full silence. Last week I made that daube my grandmother taught me, the one that takes hours, and he ate it quietly, nodded, said 'good'. I wanted to scream. The thing is, I keep thinking, maybe I’m too much? I get worked up easy, I talk with my hands, I need to *say* things to understand them. But with him, it’s like I’m yelling into a tunnel. The thing is... when he’s happy, it’s peaceful. But when I’m upset, I need movement, not stillness. What can you do, this is how Germans are, my sister says. But why do I feel so lonely in a relationship that looks perfect?