How do I handle my mom hating my boyfriend?
So my boyfriend Mark is amazing — seriously he's kind patient and actually listens when I talk which my last two exes never did. He's 42 I'm 28 so yeah there's an age gap but we connect on everything that matters. Problem is my mom HATES him. Like full on dramatic disapproval. She says he's 'too old' and 'probably just passing through' — whatever that means. She even brought up his divorce like it's some red flag but hello almost everyone divorces these days. I tried talking to her calmly but she just shuts down or starts crying saying she doesn’t want me to get hurt. Honestly it’s making me so mad because she hasn’t even given him a real chance — one dinner and she was already rolling her eyes when he mentioned his favorite jazz album. I love my mom and I don’t want to cut her off but I’m tired of feeling like I have to choose. Part of me wonders if maybe she’s right and I’m missing something — but then I spend time with Mark and that doubt vanishes. How do I stand by someone I care about without losing my mom? Or am I just ignoring real red flags because I'm in love