How do I stop feeling guilty for earning more?
My husband and I got married 3 years ago, love marriage, and his family still hasn't accepted it fully. I work in IT, make around 18 LPA, and he is teaching in a college — good job, but pays less. At first it was small comments, like 'You should pay for the AC since you earn so much' or 'We can't afford this, but you can'. Now it's worse. His mother is always crying about how 'she raised a son who can't feed his wife', and my husband is not stopping them. He is just sitting quiet. Last week, during dinner, his sister made a joke about me being the 'breadwinner' and everyone laughed like it's so funny. I didn't eat anything after that. I feel like I'm doing something wrong by being successful. I don't rub it in, I cook, clean, we split bills, but still. When I brought it up, my husband said 'They are like this only, you know how joint families are'. But it's crushing me. I don't want to resent him, but I can't keep feeling bad for working hard.