How do I stop feeling guilty for having friends?

I love him but sometimes I feel like I’m disappearing, you know? Last week I went to my sister’s birthday dinner—just family and a couple of close friends—and when I got home, Luis was silent, wouldn’t look at me, and later said, 'I guess I’m not enough for you.' That crushed me. I love him but I also need my people, my laughter, my tías yelling over music and abuela pulling me into dance. He says it’s because he cares, but it’s not the first time. He checks my phone sometimes 'jokingly,' and if I’m on a girls’ call too long, he sighs like I’m wasting time. I don’t want to choose between my family’s warmth and my marriage. My mom says a good man shouldn’t make you feel bad for having a heart full of love—it should include him, not replace everything else. We’re both Aries, fire signs, passionate, I get that, but why does his passion feel like a wall sometimes? Is this just how love is supposed to feel in our culture—like you fold yourself smaller so the relationship fits? I don’t want to lose him, but I’m scared I’m already losing me.