Is it real when they say the affair made them love me more?
So my boyfriend of 2 years cheated back in November. I found out he was texting this girl from work — nothing physical, he swears, but it still gutted me. We’ve been in couples therapy since December & honestly, things have been better? Like, he’s way more present, remembers small stuff I like, even plans little dates out of nowhere. But yesterday he says — outta nowhere — "I think sleeping with her was the worst thing I’ve ever done, but weirdly, it made me realize how much I actually love you." Wtf. That sounds insane to me. How do you love someone MORE because you cheated? That makes no sense. Part of me wants to believe he’s grown, & I can see the effort — but another part feels like he’s just saying it to fix things. Like, is this even a real thing people experience? Or is he justifying his mistake? We’re talking marriage down the line, but now I don’t know if I can ever fully trust him again. I keep thinking — if he could do it once, even if it was only texts, what stops it from happening again? Honestly torn. Therapy helps, but I need real talk from people who’ve been there.