Is it wrong to have friends outside my relationship?
So we’ve been together 8 months and things were going good—like I finally felt like I was in a healthy space after everything I’ve been through with recovery and all—but lately it’s like every time I make plans with my guys she gets this look you know? Last weekend I went to a bbq with some old coworkers and she didn’t talk to me for two days after… said I was “choosing them over us” and that it “hurts her deeply” every time I’m not around. I mean… I get it, she wants to spend time together but I can’t just cut off everyone I know? My mom and dad raised me to value family and loyalty but damn it’s not like I’m gone all the time… we still do date nights and talk every day and all that. But now she’s texting me during hikes with the guys asking why I’m not replying and it’s starting to feel like I’m doing something wrong for wanting space. I love her but I’m scared I’m gonna lose myself again if I don’t stand my ground… but then I feel like the bad guy? Idk… maybe I’m overreacting but it’s stressing me out and I don’t want to mess this up 🤦