Is it wrong to have friends outside my relationship?

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So we’ve been together 8 months and things were going good—like I finally felt like I was in a healthy space after everything I’ve been through with recovery and all—but lately it’s like every time I make plans with my guys she gets this look you know? Last weekend I went to a bbq with some old coworkers and she didn’t talk to me for two days after… said I was “choosing them over us” and that it “hurts her deeply” every time I’m not around. I mean… I get it, she wants to spend time together but I can’t just cut off everyone I know? My mom and dad raised me to value family and loyalty but damn it’s not like I’m gone all the time… we still do date nights and talk every day and all that. But now she’s texting me during hikes with the guys asking why I’m not replying and it’s starting to feel like I’m doing something wrong for wanting space. I love her but I’m scared I’m gonna lose myself again if I don’t stand my ground… but then I feel like the bad guy? Idk… maybe I’m overreacting but it’s stressing me out and I don’t want to mess this up 🤦

Nabilah Aziz · Answer

Honestly, having friends outside your relationship is totally normal, can or not? My fiancé, he's really supportive of me hanging out with my girlfriends, even though he's the one who converted for me. Steady lah, communication is key here. Maybe have a chat with your girlfriend about how you're feeling, like you value your time together but also need your own space. Go talk to her, see what's bothering her and find a balance that works for both of you.

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