Married for love... was I wrong?

my cousin married her college boyfriend too. 26 just like you. ten years in and they were roommates with shared bills no more fights because no one even cared enough to argue anymore. she told me once 'we’re like two lamps in the same hall both on but lighting nothing' hit me hard. i’ve been there. not married but in a long stretch where we stopped talking just… existed. what changed was one night i said 'i don’t want to be lonely in the same room anymore' and meant it. we went to therapy not because we thought it’d fix everything but because we owed it to the love we once had to try. if you’re asking if arranged would’ve been safer it’s not about the setup it’s about showing up. you don’t need grand gestures start with one real conversation not about bills or chores but about how you’re both sad. say 'i miss you' even if it feels weird. my cousin’s still married. they’re not 'in love' like college days but they’re rebuilding something slower softer. it’s not magic it’s choice. but you gotta start somewhere.