My pastor says she's not God's plan for me

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I never planned for this. I’m Chukwuemeka, from Anambra, and everyone back home expect say I go marry girl from village—good family, church woman, all of that. But then I meet Ada in my office here in Lagos. She fine, sharp, and when we talk… e be like the whole room quiet. We don’t even touch, but I know. Then one day pastor call me close after service, look me in the face and say, 'She no be part of God’s plan for you. Walk away.' Na like say he know. We don’t talk like that in my people—we never name it, but I know what I feel. Now every time I see her, my chest tight. I try pray, fast, even go for deliverance, but she still dey my mind. I fear say I go lose her. I fear say I go lose myself. What do I do? God when? I no even know who I dey ask anymore.

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Look Emeka I been there—my aunty once told me a prophet saw in a dream that my girlfriend would bring me ruin and I should cut her off immediately I laughed at first but part of me wondered what if I took time to pray on it real hard didnt just act on emotion and after three months of quiet reflection I noticed things I missed before how she never wanted to meet family how her values shifted when money was involved Pastor words can hit hard especially when they come outta nowhere but dont dismiss it just cause it stings or embrace it just cause it sounds holy sit with it pray without begging for confirmation either way observe how peace shows up in your spirit when you think of Ada when you think of home when you imagine the future and whatever you do talk to someone neutral maybe another elder not your pastor someone who knows you not just your background cause this thing with Ada it might be real it might be distraction but only you and God can settle that

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