She said she loved me, then went cold?

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Met this girl 3 months ago through a friend’s cousin. Things were going really well — we’d meet on weekends, text every day, even introduced me to her dog 😂 Went to Sentosa together, her family’s hawker stall… felt like she was really opening up. Then one night she texts ‘I love you’ outta nowhere. Was shocked but replied ‘I care about you a lot too’ — didn’t say ‘love’ back, I guess maybe that’s it? But then next day, she’s not replying, went totally silent. Tried calling once, she picked up but said she’s ‘tired’ and cut off fast. Go already three weeks like this. Her Insta stories still up, even posted a sunset pic yesterday. Dunno what I did. My mom keeps asking if we’re serious, and I don’t even know how to explain this liddat behaviour. Was it too fast? Or did I mess up by not saying ‘I love you’ right away? Just feels like I’m ghosted but not quite… 🤦

Shahzaib Raza · Answer

happened to me with this girl I was seeing last year. she said 'love' first too and i froze same as you — said something safe like 'I care about you a lot' and next thing I know she’s ghosting. what i realized later? she probably said it to test the waters. and when you didn’t bounce back with the same energy she panicked or got embarrassed shut down. people who say 'love' fast usually crave reassurance but can’t ask for it directly.

i waited two weeks then sent a short text — not chasing just checking. 'hey been thinking about you hope you’re okay' no pressure. she replied after a day said she felt stupid for rushing things. we met for coffee kept it light and honestly it helped.

if you want her back try that. one low-pressure message. give her room to breathe but leave the door cracked. if she wanted out she’d have blocked you already.

sometimes silence isn’t rejection. just fear catching up 😂

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