She says she loves me but not ready for a relationship?

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so we been talkin for months kinda flirty then one night she text me 'i love you' outta nowhere and my heart jumped i wont lie i said it back we talked every day sometimes late into the night about everything our jobs our fams what we want one day then last week i asked if we could be official like really try this she said she loves me but she’s not ready for a relationship and i just… freeze i didn’t know what to say … how can you love someone and not want to be with them that don’t make sense to me my mama always said actions talk louder than words but this feel backwards she ain’t seein nobody else as far as i know and she ain’t ask for space or nothin just keeps textin same as before like nothin changed i told my cousin and he said maybe she scared maybe it’s family stuff or church stuff she grew up Pentecostal so i get that but still after saying 'i love you' you don’t just leave that hangin right im startin to wonder if i’m readin her wrong or if she playin me

Jose Reyes · Answer

happened to me with this girl i was crazy about we talked for months late night calls shared all our deep stuff she said i love you first too and i swear i thought it was real then i asked to be official and got the same line love you but not ready for a relationship it gutted me

took me a while but i realized love can be real and still not mean someone is ready to show up for it some people feel deeply but are stuck in their own head scared or dealing with stuff they aint talked about

i gave her space and asked myself what i actually needed not just wanted i wanted her but i needed someone who wanted me in a real way not just in texts and feelings

so i stepped back no games just gave myself room to breathe and in two weeks i texted her not to push but just to say hey im here but i cant be stuck in limbo it was the first honest thing i said in weeks

she never stepped up and that told me everything you might get a different answer but you gotta ask for clarity not just feelings

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