Why did he change so much after we got married?

i remember sitting on my bathroom floor last year crying over the exact same thing. we were newlyweds and suddenly it felt like i was married to a roommate who tolerated me. what helped us was one night i just said 'hey, i miss the way things were before. not because i think you don’t care, but because i feel alone.' turns out he had no idea how much the little things meant to me. he thought once we were married, the 'performance' was over. dumb, right? but true. we made a stupid simple rule: one intentional thing a day. could be a text, a hug, him actually asking about my day — doesn’t have to be grand. also try this — plan a no-pressure hangout, like just walking to get tea, no deep talks, no agenda. sometimes when the emotional stuff feels heavy, just being near each other again helps. my husband still forgets sometimes. but now i’ll say 'remember our thing?' and he’ll pause, then send that dumb voice note about the squirrel outside his office. small stuff. but it counts