Why keep delaying marriage after 5 years?
we’ve been together 5 years, talked marriage since year 2. every time i bring it up, he says not the right moment — first was about his job, then his sister’s wedding, now suddenly he says he feels ‘trapped’ when i mention it. i don’t want to make him shame, but i’m 30 already, parents asking every weekend. my mama cries sometimes, says what will people think. i converted for him, tried to be patient, but now i feel like a burden just for wanting clarity. we live together, share bills, even planned a temple visit together — but he still won’t commit. last week i said maybe we should decide, he just said 'we’re fine as we are, why rush?' and changed topic. part of me thinks he never wanted marriage with me, just… this. but i can’t say that to his face. scared of the answer. i don’t even know if i’m asking for too much. never mind lah, maybe it’s just me.