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I've been dating my girlfriend for about 3 years now and my parents are already asking when we're getting married. I feel like I'm more attached to her than actually in love, idk if that's a bad thing. We don't really fight or anything, she's great and all, but sometimes I feel like I'm just going through the motions. My friends say I'm lucky to have her, she's smart, pretty, and our families get along really well. But honestly, I don't feel that spark I thought I was supposed to feel. I'm scared to break up with her because I don't want to disappoint my parents or hurt her. I guess what I'm asking is, can you be attached to someone without being in love?

Sharmila Devi · Answer

I was in a similar situation a few years ago, I'd been dating my partner for a while & we seemed perfect on paper but honestly I felt like I was just going through the motions too, we didn't really fight or anything but I didn't feel that spark I thought I was supposed to feel, so I took some time to reflect on my feelings, I started thinking about what I wanted from a relationship, what my non-negotiables were, & I realized I needed to have an open conversation with my partner about how I was feeling, it was scary but it actually brought us closer together, I'd say try doing the same, take some time to think about what you want, what you're looking for in a relationship, then have a real talk with your girlfriend, see how you both feel 💪

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