I found out my partner has a dating profile — we have been together for a year

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My friend showed me a screenshot of my boyfriend active on a dating app. His profile has recent photos that I took of him. We have been exclusive for a year, living together for 3 months. When I confronted him, he said the app was old and he forgot to delete it. But the photos are from last month trip we took. I am devastated. Is there any innocent explanation or am I being naive?

Bob Williams · Accepted Answer

If the photos are recent, the "forgot to delete it" excuse does not hold up. Old apps do not auto-update with new photos. He actively uploaded those pictures, which means he was actively using the app. I am sorry. This is not about one lie — it is about what the lie reveals about his commitment to your relationship. You deserve honesty, especially from someone you live with.

Frank Chen · Answer

I want to add: confronting him is the right move, but watch his reaction carefully. Does he get defensive and blame you for snooping? Or does he show genuine remorse and offer full transparency? The response tells you everything about whether this relationship can recover.

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