Can astrology explain our total mismatch?

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so my parents set me up with this guy from our community and we’re supposed to get married in six months but honestly I’m freaking out his whole vibe is just off we talked about stuff like family planning and he said he wants eight kids no joke and I’m like um I dont even want one not even close and when I brought up birth control he got weird about it said it was haram even though plenty of people in our culture are fine with it we checked our kundlis at first because my mom insisted and the priest said moon signs were compatible but what about actual values?? like he wants to live with his parents forever and I need my own space we dont even kiss and he side eyes me when I wear shorts around his family i know astrology cant fix everything but is there a planetary reason we feel so far apart? or is this just a hard pass I keep making excuses to delay the wedding but my parents are getting mad and honestly I’m scared to tell them the truth especially about the sex stuff cause you know how it is they’ll say I’m overreacting but this feels like a red flag city

Yuki Tanaka · Answer

my cousin went through something similar last year — family pressure, kundli check, the whole thing. they said the stars aligned but she still felt sick around him. turns out, astrology might explain vibes, but it can’t override real-life red flags. eight kids? that’s not a difference in opinion, that’s a whole different life path. i get the cultural weight, trust me, my mom still checks every match with a pandit. but when he side-eyed birth control and called it haram while plenty of others don’t… that’s not just tradition, that’s control. i told my cousin to ask direct questions: 'what happens if i don’t want kids?' 'will you respect my choices?' if his answers scare you, walk. you don’t owe anyone a marriage just because the kundli matched. i know it feels heavy, but better to panic now than cry every day for 40 years. talk to someone neutral — maybe a trusted auntie outside the family — get clarity. your gut’s already telling you something.

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