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so i've been best friends with this guy for like 5 years now and lately things have been getting really weird. we always flirted and joked around but i never thought much of it. then last week we were out at a bar and he kissed me, and i didnt stop him. now i feel all conflicted because i care about him deeply but i dont know if i can trust him with my feelings. tbh, i'm scared of ruining our friendship. we've been inseperable since college and the thought of not having him in my life is terrifying. ngl, i've had feelings for him for a while now but i never wanted to risk our friendship. now i dont know what to do or how to process all these emotions. i feel like i'm stuck in limbo and i need some advice

Omar Hassan · Answer

honestly i’ve been there and it’s one heck of a head spin when the line blurs like that. my best friend and i were super close too, always joking, flirty texts, the whole thing. when we finally kissed i froze just like you… didn’t stop it but regretted it after. turned out he was just drunk and didn’t mean anything by it. gutted me and yeah it messed things up for a bit

what helped was just saying something. i waited two weeks and finally said "hey that kiss is on my mind. where’s your head at?" took guts but i couldn’t pretend it didn’t happen. if he cares about you like i think he does he’ll want to clear the air, not avoid it

you don’t have to figure out if it's love or whatever just yet but you do need to talk. even if it’s awkward. better than pretending and letting it fester. if the friendship truly matters it’ll survive an honest conversation

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