My girlfriend hides her phone from me — should I be worried?

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We have been together for 2 years. Recently I noticed she tilts her phone away when texting, takes calls in another room, and changed her password. When I asked about it, she said I was being paranoid. I trust her in general, but this behavior is new and it makes me uncomfortable. Am I overreacting?

Alice Johnson · Accepted Answer

Changes in phone behavior are not automatic red flags, but sudden changes are worth paying attention to. The key issue here is not the phone — it is that she dismissed your concern as "paranoia" instead of addressing it. A healthy response would be something like "I understand that looks concerning. Here is what is going on." Her defensiveness is the actual signal to watch.

Iris Patel · Answer

Before jumping to conclusions, consider that she might be planning a surprise, talking to a therapist, or dealing with something personal she is not ready to share. The phone-hiding itself is not proof of anything. But her reaction to your concern matters a lot. If she consistently dismisses your feelings, that is a communication problem worth addressing regardless of what is on the phone.

My girlfriend hides her phone from me — should I be worried?

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