First love, now stuck?

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met my girlfriend at church youth group when I was 16 she was 15. we held hands during hymns started dating right after graduation. never been with anyone else not even kissed another soul. got engaged last year but lately I wonder if we’re growing together or just scared to grow apart. we still pray together every night and go to Sunday service but sometimes it feels like we’re running on church autopilot. she wants to wait till marriage for anything physical and I respect that but I catch myself wondering what else I’m missing out on not because I want someone else but because we’ve never had anything else to compare it to. her mom already picked out china patterns like we’re locked in and I don’t want to hurt her feelings but I need to know if this is real or just comfort. we’re both scared of dating the world but what if staying in the bubble is its own kind of risk

Lena Macapagal · Answer

honestly i was you three years ago — met my partner at a bible study camp when i was 17 and we waited for everything too. it’s not wrong to wonder if you’re just staying together cause it’s safe i know that knot in your stomach when you think maybe you’re just coasting on routine and shared prayer times. but here’s what helped me: i started journaling not just prayers but honest thoughts like what i’d do differently if i were single or what part of her bugs me lately not in a mean way but real. then i brought one thing up gently over coffee not a big confrontation just "hey i’ve been thinking about how we never talk about how we handle conflict" or whatever. we also started doing one non-church thing together monthly like a hike or trying a new diner and it loosened something. you don’t gotta question your whole relationship to grow — sometimes just adding something small that’s fully yours and not tied to youth group memories can help you see each other fresh. my fiance and i still pray together but now we also share a dumb playlist and it’s dorky and perfect.

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