He ghosted me after we slept together?

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So we’ve been dating off and on for like 4 months. Nothing super serious but we always flirted a lot and said we were into each other. Last weekend we ended up sleeping together — it wasn’t a one-night stand, we stayed over at my place, woke up together had coffee. Felt kinda meaningful you know?

But now he hasn’t texted in 3 days. I said something light like “coffee this week?” and he just said “maybe” — that was 2 days ago. Nothing since.

We talked about waiting to have sex until we were both ready — not for religious reasons just personal — and now it happened and he’s acting like I’m a stranger. Was it just about the sex? But why pull back so hard

I don’t even know if this counts as cheating but it feels like a betrayal. We never defined things but the silence is killing me.

He’s always been hot and cold — but this time it’s worse after being so close.

Like what even was that night if it meant nothing?

Does this happen to other people?

Just feel so confused and kinda stupid for thinking it meant something

Fatima Al-Zahra · Answer

ugh i hate when this happens. i dated this guy for a few months last year, same situation — we finally slept together after weeks of back and forth, it felt sweet and real, woke up cuddling and everything. then boom, radio silence. i texted once, he said “we’ll see” like you got. stung like hell.

look, i know it feels confusing because the morning after was so warm. but people do that now — they’ll be tender in person and then ghost the second it gets real. doesn’t mean you did anything wrong. just means he wanted the intimacy but isn’t ready to follow through.

i waited a week hoping he’d come around. he didn’t. finally blocked him after seeing his ass at a concert with friends and not a single text to check in. not worth the mental space.

here’s what helped: i stopped checking my phone every 10 minutes. wrote him a letter i never sent — got all the hurt out. then made actual plans with friends, even if just coffee.

you deserve someone who wants to stay. not just sleep and slide away.

drop him if he doesn’t reach out by friday

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