He gives advice when I open up… so I stopped
last week i told him i felt really lonely, like even at home i feel alone... he just said 'you should try joining a club or volunteering. structure helps.' 🤦 it wasn’t the first time. once i cried about my mom not approving of us and he said 'we can schedule a family meeting with agenda items.' agenda items??? i just… shut down after that. i grew up being taught not to burden people, so saying anything heavy already takes so much… and when he responds like that, it feels like i made a mistake for speaking at all. my dad was the same — practical, distant — and my mom just endured. i don’t want that. but am i expecting too much? maybe this is just how men are here… or is it him? i just want to feel seen once in a while… like, what’s the point of being close if you can’t say the messy things