he hid massive debt until AFTER we married?

When I found out my husband had debt he didn’t tell me about, I cried for two days straight. Like, I get that we don’t talk about money enough in relationships, but straight-up hiding 28 lakhs? That’s not just a secret, that’s a time bomb. I waited a week to confront him, gave myself time to stop shaking. When I did, I said exactly what I felt — not angry, just hurt. And honestly, his reaction told me more than the debt ever did. He got defensive at first, then broke down. Turned out he was ashamed, didn’t know how to bring it up. But here’s what helped us: we sat down with every statement, made a spreadsheet together. Not to blame, but to see the real picture. Then we went to a credit counselor — free session through the bank. You don’t have to fix it all today. Just set a time to talk. Bring the statements. Say how it made you feel. Watch how he responds. That’ll tell you if it’s a mistake… or a pattern