He promised marriage after we got intimate… now he's ghosting?

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We've been together for 8 months, and he kept saying 'once we are physical, I will take responsibility and marry you' — that's what he said, like it was a guarantee. Last month we did... and now he is not replying to calls, ignoring my texts, even read my last message and just left it. His family knows about me, we even met once when his mom came to Hyderabad for a cousin's wedding. I thought it was going somewhere. Now he is acting like I'm a fling or something. My parents are already asking if things are serious because they want me settled, and I dont know what to tell them... I feel so stupid. Is this my fault for trusting him? He is not understanding how much this hurts. I just... I thought he was different.

Anonymous · Answer

my cousin went through something almost identical last year. she waited three weeks hoping he’d come around, sending polite texts asking what’s going on. he finally responded to say he ‘wasn’t ready’ and that it ‘got serious too fast’ — total cop out. what helped her most was talking to one friend who just said ‘don’t give him the power to decide your worth’

block him for now. seriously. not to punish him but so you can breathe. text him one time if you need closure — something like ‘i expected honesty after everything’ — then block. you don’t owe him drama but you do owe yourself to stop chasing

and tell your parents something shifted. not the full story unless you want to but don’t let them pressure you into silence
family reputation stuff i know but your peace matters more
you’re not a fling. he just acted like one

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